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Happy Love Yourself Month

I love February because all the hearts come out.  Everywhere I look, hearts hearts hearts.  And it’s not because I’m married and have a “valentine” that I love the hearts.  I’ve always loved hearts.  And if you know me or follow me at all you know I see hearts everywhere I go.  <3

For many years in college and after college, I remember that I didn’t have a “valentine” but I was always happy.  Well, almost always happy.   There was this one year in college when my friend and I declared each other our Valentines and made plans for our big night out together.  I was very excited.  I was planning to wear my red shoes with the little kitten heels… Oh, we had each other and that’s all that mattered.  But then my friend got asked out at the last minute and Bam!  No Date.  I have to admit I was really bummed.  I think mostly because she didn’t apologize.  She just said, so and so asked me out so I have a date now.  It was kinda like if a guy came along, naturally that’s the better choice. Well, I was feeling pretty let down but luckily I decided to reinvent my day.  I didn’t have a big night out but I did end up watching tv with some friends and that was good enough for me. Honestly, that is the only sad memory I have of February 14th because I decided that day that I was gonna have fun loving myself up no matter what.

Valentine’s Day is not just for couples!   And this year, let’s make it about loving ourselves first.  How?  Well, you may have some of your own ideas.  One of my favorite little ways throughout the years in February is to sprinkle my days with love by treating myself  to some heart cookies.  Who doesn’t love a heart shaped cookie or candy or chocolate?  This year I picked up some heart bowls at Williams Sonoma.  These are ways I love myself externally.  Fun! But more lasting is loving ourselves on the inside.  I’ll tell you how.

Last month I decided I would commit to doing “morning pages” for 30 days.  Do you know what morning pages are?  I first learned of morning pages from one of my favorite books of all times, “The Artist’s Way” by Julia Cameron.  I read this book about 13 years ago – GAME CHANGER ALERT!!  If you haven’t read this book, this may be your act of self love, read the Artist’s Way.  Anyhoo, I am going to tell you how I do my morning pages.  It has evolved since when I did it 13 years ago.  My son was a baby when I first began morning pages.  I did not have any time to myself so I thought but I made a commitment to myself then and I did do morning pages for a long time.  Mind you sometimes I had to scrawl out my pages in the bathroom because that was the only time I was alone.

Morning pages are ideally done in the morning but sometimes you don’t have time in the morning.  No problem.  Just do them when you have a chance.  Do what?  Get out some paper and start writing.  An easy guide is 3 pages of notebook paper or 10 minutes… (If you have time and want to write more, do and if you’re short on time, write less)  Grab a pen and go. 

What to write about?  Anything that comes to your mind.  There is no right or wrong way to do morning pages.  You are just letting your mind speak and this is why I chose morning pages as a way to express love to ourselves.  When we express what’s in our minds, we are giving ourselves time and permission to speak and to be heard.  Isn’t that beautiful?  We give ourselves time to speak when we write and we also hear ourselves when we write.  Oh, by the way, this is a process meant to be done long hand.  Not by computer but handwritten.  It allows us time to process what we are writing.

When I’m done writing, I usually just crumple up my papers and toss them unless there was something I wrote about that I wanted to save like when I wrote out what the first episode of my channel Luann’s Corner was going to be about in my morning pages.  That was a fun surprise.

Here are a few guidelines:

Do keep your morning pages private.  They are your conversations with yourself.  Though I sometimes will share a portion of my pages.  In fact I intend to send my friend Annie a portion of a page I wrote about her.  Little nuggets, you know?

Don’t reread your morning pages.  If you want to save them to reread later, read them later later to see your growth.  I had intended to do this many years ago but when I got around to it, I didn’t want to revisit the past so I tossed them all.  Felt good actually.

Do be gentle with yourself.   #nojudgementzone    No one else is reading your morning pages but you.  Morning pages are a good place to release that annoyance you have with so and so…  You’re human.  Allow yourself to be. And sometimes it’s the perfect place to write about all the things you don’t want to tell other people.  The papers can just go in the trash anyway when you’re done so release away!!!

I’m now past my 30 day commitment but I love this practice so much and I really feel the difference it’s making in my life so I intend to keep going…

I invite you to commit to journaling in February – a day, a week, a month or indefinitely…  I affirm you will love spending time with yourself, letting yourself be yourself and celebrating YOU!

Happy Love Yourself Month!

 

 

Dropping In

Happy New Year!  I hope this has been a wonderful start to your 2018 but if it hasn’t yet, I affirm that 2018 can still be all that you want it to be.

I just finished my January weekend at University of Santa Monica where I’m studying spiritual psychology.  I am still feeling the high of the weekend.

I woke up this morning most poignantly remembering, the importance of “dropping in.”  What does that even mean?  Well, it’s actually a term I learned in acting.  I think it was a class I took with a teacher named Ron Burrus – he ended up teaching me so much about spirituality actually.  Anyway, the term “dropping in” came after we took some time to center ourselves before we did anything.  We’d close our eyes, and, in my words, drop into ourselves.  Ha.  I think we were doing a mini meditation but I didn’t know back then.

I look back and see how much dropping in helped me in my acting career.  When I first began acting, I really tried very hard to do everything right – to win them over.  I learned my lines.  I practiced…  Just the process of slating my name was a really big deal.  (Hi, I’m Luann Chou)  They always tell you in acting your slate is really important because that’s how casting first sees you.  Well, in the beginning, I often did not show up as myself.  I efforted my way through slates with a higher pitched voice than my own and a super enthusiastic “Hi, I’m Luann Chou!!” trying to get it “Right” but actually not showing up as myself did not get me positive results.

However, when I started dropping in, I started to get more and more and more call backs and then bookings.  And when I say dropping in I mean when I began practicing a process of where I’d re-center myself before my auditions.  Auditions are a high energy place and so I learned to take deep breaths before auditions and literally sink back into myself right before my slate so that the essence of me could come out because the essence of me was the one who ended up being seen.  My essence was the one who got called back and the one booking.

This came to me this past weekend in one of my working trios.  Trios are where we practice the skill we are learning in a client, facilitator and neutral observer set up.   I had the privilege to watch someone show up right before me – beautifully and completely so.  One minute she was in a role as she felt she had to be when she was the facilitator but as she moved into the client chair, she let her guard down.  She let go of her role and showed up completely and vulnerably as herself and it was really awesome to see.  I got to witness what it looks like when we appear as who we think we SHOULD be and when we show up as ourselves and let our essence shine – dropping in.

I invite you this month to practice dropping into yourself and letting others see your true essence.  What a gift that is to the world!  I certainly felt that way in the trio.

And I’m reminded too as I prepare for my workshop next Thursday to show up in my essence and not as the “teacher.”

Thanks for reading.

Purging during the Holidays

November has been a very busy and wonderful month for me which has included purging my closet.  Coincidentally or shall I say beautifully orchestrated by the Universe, I got beautiful new floors installed in my room at the same time I was reading the life-changing magic of tidying up by Marie Kondo.  In order to get my floors done, I had to move everything from my room downstairs, upstairs.  Well, that lent for the perfect set up to go through my things.

Let me start by telling you that I don’t consider myself to be a collector.  I give away things very regularly, much to my son’s chagrin, as he likes to keep EVERYTHING.  🙂  I didn’t follow Marie’s exact method of putting everything in a pile before sorting but I did go through each piece in my closet individually handling each item before determining if it was staying or going.

The process actually ended up being quite clearing for me both in space and psychologically.  Even before I went through my clothes, I had already begun to let go of some items that I had held onto for a long time.  I knew it was time.

A few items that stood out to me that I finally was ready to give away included:  an argyle vest that I wore for my son’s first day of pre-school 10 years ago, a black and white batik skirt that I wore on my very first Mother’s Day, 13 years ago, a ski jacket and a beautiful pair of 4 inch heels I wore for my birthday several years ago (the only time I ever wore them acutally bc they were insanely high – dangerous to a gal like me) and I threw away my son’s baby pillow – the little teeny tiny pillow that had changed colors.  I mention these particular items because they indicate to me what I was holding onto – the past.

One of my greatest joys in life is being a mom.  I remember when I was pregnant and I asked a friend of mine who had just had her baby, “Do you feel like this is what you were born to do?”  I think I heard someone say it before.  My friend looked at me like I was high and simply responded, “NO!”  Well, as it turns out, I do think that one of my main purposes in this life was to be my son’s mom.  I don’t claim to love every minute of it but I do claim to LOVE IT!  I feel blessed to have a close relationship, CLOSE, not perfect with my son.

I noticed I had been holding on to some of my milestones with my son I guess in hopes to keep him near me always but I realize that that keeps me living in the past.  Every time I go to get clothes from my closet, I walk down memory lane.  The clothes I gave away were clothes that I did not wear yet they mingled in with clothes that I do wear regularly.  Hmmm.  So, every time  I chose an outfit, I’d meet up with the past.  I knew it was time to thank them for being on my journey and begin being a little more present in the now with my 13 year old boy.  I want to live mindfully and gratefully each day my son and I are together and I am able to be here for him.  I want to release the past into the past and thank it which I did.

I also let go of the former me who used to ski.  A couple years ago, I finally gave away my first ski jacket that I bought with my own money and that was probably the last time I skiied too with my new ski jacket as it were.  Truth be told, I have never loved skiing, it was yet another thing I did to prove my self worth.  When I was younger, I used to ski with a bunch of guy friends that were quite good at skiing.  I figured if I could keep up with them then I was impressive as well.  Well, the thing was, everytime I skiied, I had that feeling of going too fast and being out of control a bit that exhilirated many people but for me scared me to death.  Lol!   The last time I skiied I decided was the last but I still had my jacket.   Giving that jacket away felt good to me.  It was as if I were telling myself I had permission not to ski and that I was just as wonderful without skiing.  I’m sure my husband would prefer I continue to ski but actually maybe not because the last time we skiied, he told me I skiied like I was catching butterflies now.  I do love butterflies.  🙂

And good bye to some of my very high heels.  I mentioned the one but there were many.  I thank my feet for carrying me in those somewhat frightening foot coverings that moved me from one side of the room to the other when I thought it added quite a bit to my appearance.  Maybe they did and I thank those shoes and my feet especially but I happily let them go now.  I admit it was difficult for me to let go of the shoes also because I had spent quite a bit of money on them but as Marie Kondo says that was part of the lesson.  And, I accept that I’m not in that phase of my life anymore.  This was a good way to accept growing up.

I think it’s the perfect time of the year to do a little purging.   If our lives are so filled with things and thoughts we don’t need, how can we have space for the new things we want to welcome in?

I hope you enjoyed my little write up on purging and letting go.

All the Best,

Luann

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Ho’oponopono

Ho’oponopono is an ancient Hawaiian prayer.  Pronounced Ho o po no po no.  It is a very simple prayer but I have found it to be powerful.  Here’s the thing about Ho’oponopono, it’s appropriate to use anytime for any matter.  I just love it and am pretty much obsessed with it!

The idea behind ho’oponopono is that we either operate from a place of inspiration or memory.  Inspiration is from spirit.  Memory can not only be inaccurate but actually NOT helpful.  Remember when your mom/dad or teacher said something really awful to you?  Your memory might have digested that incident(s) to mean you are not lovable and in fact a terrible person. Sadly, this seems to happen a lot.  But I’m here to tell you,  No matter what someone has said to you or done to you or you’ve done or said, YOU ARE SPECIAL!

You probably didn’t just change your mind this minute which is where Ho’oponopono comes in.  If you begin with a thought that is an error, the error just continues… It’s kinda like math.  Remember when we used to do long division and how long it took?  What happened when we mixed up just one number in multiplication or subtraction?  Uggh!  The whole equation was off.

It’s easy to feel “off” in life.  I myself am a pretty upbeat gal and I practice self love, affirmations, law of attraction but I have to admit that sometimes I still just feel off.  Ho’oponopono fills in the gap.  The prayer is offered up to the Divine (God, the Universe, etc…).  There are no hard and fast rules to the words.  You can say them in any order.  You can say them with the addition of your own dialogue or not.  You can say them while thinking of a situation or person that is troubling you or just say them because you feel slightly off.  The key is to say them.

I’m sorry.  Please forgive me.  I love you.  Thank you.

  • I offer up to the Divine that I’m sorry and take ownership of any part that is mine.  This is taking responsibility of your circumstances – sometimes we know what’s up, sometimes we don’t…  but as I always say we are all so powerful.  Part of that power is owning it and we own it by saying I’m sorry for my part (specifically name or not…)

I have a friend who dislikes this part of the prayer.  Ok, so exclude it for the time being or change it to I take ownership.

  • Please forgive me – for being judgmental, blind, impatient, inflexible, rude…  and these sentences could all end with to myself as well as in, Please forgive me for being judgmental to myself.  Please forgive me for not honoring myself.  This part of the prayer is not to place blame on yourself.  It’s an important part of transmuting the thoughts and memories. Try not to overthink.  Allow the Divine to take over.

 

  • I love you is an expression of sending your love out into the world because Love, as it turns out does cover over: fear, hate, judgement, intolerance, unforgivness… Have you ever heard that love is the opposite of fear?  And, have you ever considered fear motivates a lot of unproductive and hurtful actions?  Well, cover over it with Love! I love you.

 

  • Thank you – the art of gratitude is very powerful.   Gratitude transforms.  It shifts your perspective and your point of attraction.  Have you heard the saying Give thanks in all circumstances, actually from the Bible.  When I was a younger, I used to think this was a misprint in the Bible.  But I’ve learned to really value this principle.  Often this gratitude for your circumstances doesn’t happen overnight. Some things take time, take work, take self reflection and YES, Ho’oponopono to transform awful circumstances into gratitude.

I have seen a lot little shifts in my life since I started to, as I call it, Ho’oponopono it!  I say now, I’m gonna Ho’oponopono that and I do.  Sometimes not right when I am upset by the lady cutting in front of me or feeling left out or annoyed at a friend’s behavior but I eventually do and it clears it.  Oh, did I mention, that’s the point.  The prayer clears it from your consciousness.  Yay!  And things begin to shift.

I hope you enjoyed my Ho’oponopono blog today.  Feel free to check out my blog on Gratitude as well.  http://luannchou.com/2017/04/why-is-gratitude-so-important/

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Reflection(s)

Today I want to talk about the many lessons I have been learning in seeing what is being reflected back to me in others.

I’m going to be honest.  I’ve never been a big fan of when people say, You don’t like what you see in the other person because you don’t like that part in yourself.  Hmmm.  Maybe…   That is one possibility.  There are others that include fear, resistance etc…

My point is there are so many facets of life being reflected back to you in the people you encounter from the grocery store clerk to your boss to your child or parent???

Today, I challenge you to pay attention to when something strikes you as curious or triggers you.

I have come to be grateful of these moments because I believe spirit is at work teaching me in these moments. When these moments come:

#1 Allow

Allow the moment to come in.  Don’t resist or push it out.

#2 Accept

Accept that it’s making you feel a little or a lot triggered or super curious and that that is OK!!!

#3 Ask

Ask your inner self, what is this about?

#4 Scrawl

Scrawl it out on paper.  It can be the back of a receipt but do a quick write of :

What is it triggering in me?

Why?

What can I accept?

What am I able to control?

#5 Ballon

Wrap all the thoughts up in a pink bubble balloon and release it…

I hope this helps you out in your daily practice of being mindful!


Pen to Paper

I love putting pen to paper!  Why?  Because it gets it out of your head.  don’t believe me, try it!

Why is Gratitude so important?

Gratitude does two things.  It both shifts your point of attraction and lifts your vibration.  What did I just say?  What we think about, we draw near to us.  If you’re feeling low, gratitude lifts you out of that state.  If you’re feeling ok, gratitude takes you higher.

When you have a running list of things you are grateful for, your vibration, the general feeling in your body is high and feels good to you!  I submit to you that perhaps the most important thing for you to do today is to attain that good vibration!  Hey, like the Beach Boys song!  Never occured to me before.  🙂

YOU Time

~Commit 12 minutes to yourself today!  Get out a piece of paper or your journal.

~First take 5 minutes to write whatever comes to your mind.  Stream of consciousness writing.  Don’t think.  Don’t judge.  Just write and don’t stop even if you have to write I don’t know why I’m doing this.  🙂

 Draw a line on your paper

~For the next 5 minutes,  write down what you are thankful for.  Even if you think you have nothing to be thankful for, you will find you do.  Begin with:

I’m grateful for:

running water, a roof over my head, sunshine, my cell phone, water, electricity, a friendly checker…

Quiet Moment

And then at the end of your gratitude list, take a moment, close your eyes and ask yourself if there is a message you have for yourself.  Whatever comes, trust it and write it down.  You may be surprised at what you write.

I have a note I wrote to myself once that I don’t even remember writing and it sounds nothing like me but it is super duper nice and I read it all the time!

I hope you enjoyed my blog today.  Please comment below!  🙂

Here is my Gratitude List for Today:

I am grateful for:

Kirari West (gluten free bakery), cozy sheets, Peet’s mochas, Colby and my spiritual group that I met with last night, being able to walk to the beach, my husband who has made so many amazing changes in his life, my son who is the light of our house, lipsticks, my Heal Your Life friends, my upcoming trip to Las Vegas for Hay House U Live, heart connections, palo santo, my mala bracelet, my new tires, my Mini, orange flavored sparkling water, flip flops, Zach – who gave me a message from my Aunt, Shay, clients, soul connections that were further confirmed through reading The Boy who Knew Too Much, hikes, Palos Verdes, Marshall’s, kundalini yoga and bike rides.  That’s all for today that came up quickly. 

That was fun!!!  I hope it’s fun for you too. 

 xx,

Luann

 

 

What is your point of attraction?

Do you ever feel frustrated about where you are in your life?  Do you think, I’m spiritual.  I follow Louise Hay, Wayne Dyer, Abraham but what the heck?  This is not what I want to attract!!!

Little Shifts

Let’s start with taking a quick inventory of what you are manifesting.  If you have a Facebook account, peruse that quickly.  What are you putting out?  Of course we all need to vent.  Vent and then release but consider if Facebook is the right venue for your vents and posts.  It’s public and continuous.  Do you want that floating back to you later today, tomorrow etc…

Check your thoughts?  Limiting beliefs can sneak in.  They sneak in because we have heard them so much from ourselves and people around us.  How often do you hear or think, “I’m an idiot!”  “This always happens to me!”  “Welcome to my life!”  Consider what your focus is.

Affirmations

Everyone knows it’s important to work out, to be active physically but do you work out your mind?  Know that YOU can control your thoughts and by doing so, change your point of attraction.  Forget about what you haven’t done.  Begin guiding your thoughts today.  Affirmations are a great way to begin.  What is an affirmation?  An affirmation can be any statement.  Make yours positive, in the present and personal!  Fill in the blank.  I am _____________________.

#Amazing #Powerful #Beautiful #Loved #Accepted #Smart  #Lovable #Successful #Blessed #Surrounded by people that love me #Strong  #Vulnerable #Brave #Special #Thoughtful #Improving Everyday #Making Progress #Growing and Changing #Bountiful #Blissful #a Goddess

Now watch your life shift because you have shifted your point of attraction.